“The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask. There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.” Jim Morrison
Growing up I was told ‘not to upset anyone’ and so I learned that in order to be liked I had to be kind, please others and forgo my needs. It caused me great sadness that, no matter what I did for others, I didn’t feel seen, heard or cared for in return, until I realised that the painful lessons were showing me how I had been abandoning my own truth all along.
When we allow others to set the standard of happiness, love, values and personal development in our life, we give our personal power away. We feel restricted and anxious, surrounding ourselves with incompatible people because we’re afraid to be alone. Yet, the sense of loneliness never goes away.
3 keys to personal freedom:
1. Learn to recognise and stand for the true value of what you have to offer others
2. Spend time with people who share your values and let go of those who are not like you
3. Set clear boundaries particularly regarding requests that feel burdensome
The moment I made the decision to be honest with myself was the moment I lost all sense of safety and comfort. It isn’t easy, life becomes unfamiliar, yet it was also the moment I started to like myself more and feel the freedom that came from honouring myself and my needs.
You don’t have to sacrifice your kind and loving nature to stand in your power. All you need is the courage to think bigger and trust that the people who want to be in your life will rise to meet you.
How do you know if you’re standing in your power? Personal freedom means realising you are sovereign over your own kingdom.
If you feel like you’re ready to be the star in your life but you need some extra support, get in touch and learn how to put these tips into action in your own life!